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5 Things You Should Never Say To An Expectant Mother

We’ve all been there, somebody is nearing those last few, long, painful, exhausting weeks of pregnancy before their beautiful ray of sunshine joins them. There are a few things that I was just sick of hearing when expecting.

Sleep as much as you can now before baby gets here because you won’t know what sleep is then

We all know that having a newborn baby is exhausting but lets face it, newborn babies love to sleep. They spend most of their day sleeping, eating or pooping. Granted you probably won’t be able to have those 11am lie ins anymore as you’ve been up 3 times in the night but you do actually sleep, whether its through the day or through the night, you do find time to sleep. Also telling expecting mothers who suffer with insomnia to sleep whilst they can just makes them want to scream and potentially drive them insane.

Should you be eating/drinking that

I think I can vouch for a lot of women, we research these things, we look up what we can and can’t have and unless you are a medical professional please don’t tell me what I can and can’t eat/drink as this is my baby and my body. As long as it causes no harm to the baby or yourself you carry on indulging in that sharing sized bag of Haribo, and after carrying, growing and protecting your baby for nearly 9 months that glass of wine with your dinner goes down a treat. Here is a link for anyone who’s reading this and wants any information about foods, but I’m not here to tell you what to eat and what not too.

Was the baby planned?

I’m going to be honest I really don’t think whether a baby is planned or not makes the slight bit of difference, its not as if that’s the first thing you tell your child when they start communicating is if they were or weren’t planned. Why do children need to know if they were planned or not and better still why do others think they need to know. I’m having a baby, end of.

You’re still pregnant?

Yes, yes I am. Because I’m sure I would be the first to know if this huge baby I’ve been carrying around for 9 months has made an appearance. Because 9 months of being sick, not sleeping, aching, feeling like a whale, feeling tired and grouchy 24/7 are enough, I want this baby here as much as the next person. If you see this bump that’s attached to the front part of my body and I’m waddling around because my ankles are swollen and my back is aching then YES, YES I AM STILL PREGNANT!

Are you going to breastfeed?

It’s quite personal, bottle or breast feeding, does it matter? Your baby is still being fed with the right vitamins and nutrients. I don’t think discussing the state of my future nipples with you in the middle of the supermarket is appropriate. I’m currently bottle feeding my son and I cannot stand it when people tell me well you should have breast fed, I’m sorry do I tell you what you should and shouldn’t be eating? Everybody has different views on whether your baby should be bottle or breast fed but remember, this is your baby, you decide how you feed your baby not based on what other people think you should do. I have absolutely no problem with mums who breastfed but I am sick of hearing the saying ‘Breast is Best’, really?.

Maybe instead of using these saying to expectant mother we should try by telling them how fantastic they look, their hair looks so healthy or their skin looks glowing. Remember carrying a baby for that amount of time is exhausting, you don’t feel yourself and your hormones are sky high the last thing you want is people telling you how tired you look or how you should be feeding your baby.

To all the future mummies and daddies expecting babies soon, I wish you all the best you have some exciting times ahead.

Thank you for reading my post, feel free to like, share and comment with advice and past experiences. I’d love to hear from you,

Hayley x

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